Words Of Wisdom

My dear friend sent me and a few others an email regarding words of wisdom. I started to read it and I was reading, it was never ending. Wow. Someone really had a whole lot of wisdom. So ladies, I pass along these words of wisdom. Some or most I can say I would agree on. Especially number 20.
Enjoy the wisdom and remember to always follow what your heart tells you. That is the one thing that will never lie to you.

And now for the Words of Wisdom. (You'll need a chair for this, folks.)
Words of Wisdom

Words of Wisdom

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If I have ANY doubt in my mind about a man's character-leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change ourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
13. Excuses 24/7
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who have a lot of children by a bunch of different women.
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront. Tell him how you really feel if he's making you uncomfortable and you don't trust him.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. And especially if he doesn't make you feel important.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words!!!!!
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated WITH you, he'll cheat on you.
41. I've learned, just because he SAYS he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. Use painful hard-won wisdom to 'get it right' the next time.
43. I deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in my life! ( see 31)
44. Love is a verb. But love can also be an "action."
45. I learned to give up my lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs. (This is true.)
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street. (Bend his ass!)
49. If you don't love yourself...you can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. (Sure. You'll have fun stories that will last a life time. )
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist". (This is a good one, cause in the end, he still has issues.)
56. When actions and words conflict- believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, You can't force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him, then you shouldn't.
62. NEVER EVER let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. (So true. It's like dealing with a bitch.)
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for myself and don't depend on anyone. (This is important.)
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is innocent.
67. Never spoil your man let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When its time to let go, let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make a whore a housewife or husband.
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. (Not the material things. Things such as trust, stability in a relationship, his word and promises.)
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values,beliefs, personal and career goals are important. Be your own person.

Well, I hope those of you out there keep in mind the above information. While most men and women, (cause woman can be mean too) can be dogs, there are plenty of good people out there looking for love and happiness. But the most important thing is to love yourself and never let anyone take you for granted.