Two Sides Of A Story

While riding the train this morning, I overheard two woman talking. When they got on the train, they stood by me as I was sitting down. They were already engrossed in a conversation talking about how she hasn't been drinking for several weeks and the feeling was great. She also said that she couldn't remember much, but the one thing she did remember was her ex boyfriend lying and cheating on her. The story seemed to be that he was with another woman, but kept telling her that he was not. It seemed to sound like he was manipulating her into thinking she was crazy. Of course, I don't know the whole story so I can't assume she was crazy. But you never know what the truth is by hearing just one side of the story. Though it seemed that she may have been the one that was hurt and lied to, you can't assume based on that.

Perhaps her drinking made him go with another woman? We don't know that. Just as she was telling her friend, she could have easily told her buddy her "special" verison of the story. But since they were friends, my guess is that naturally, she would side with her friend. But that shouldn't always be the case. You could know a person and hear their story and easily side with that person. And that is what we all do by nature because they are our friend. But the truth is, you will never really know the truth if you never hear the other side.

So your friend breaks up with his girl and he goes on about how he was hurt. But the truth could really be that HE was the one that was lying and cheating. And maybe the fact that she hit him with a piece of wood was because HE was causing her harm. But he'll tell you the mark on his arm was from his ex hitting him because he found out that SHE had cheated on him and he busted her. When the truth was totally opposite. But you will never know the truth when you only hear one side of a story. I can't say it enough!!

There are people out there that lie for a living and some for no reasons. They just lie and it's normal to them. They believe in their lies to the point that they hurt themselves. They lie to many people. Then you sit back and you can't believe that this great person, who is liked by so many, could be such an evil person. "No way, not our fantastic, adorable, funny friend?" Yes. There are people out there who live sick lives like that. They ruin the lives of many people and continue to do so to others. They pretend to be someone else to many, while they return to their home as another person. And then after so many years of knowing this person, you feel like a fool having trusted them. Having thought that your great friend was hurt by his ex girlfriend, when in fact, the ex girlfriend was a victim of your wonderful friend's games. But you only listen to ONE SIDE of a story. So how much do you really know??

You have to go about it like if you were a judge in court. The judge hears both sides of the story then decides in the end whose guilty or not. We all judge. Whether you care to admit or not. You judge a person when you see them for the first time. If they look dirty. You assume they are. If they are well dressed and sweet, you think they are. It's why we all care about our appearence when we meet people for the first time. We're judged at a job interview. A first date. A family reunion. People will judge you no matter what. Judging is natural. We don't like to be wrongly judged. So why not judge a situation the right way? The way it should be. Even the smartest people can be fooled. If you think you know the story, you might want to rethink it again and ask questions. A good con artist can get away with alot, but at some point, he WILL get caught.

So the moral of this story is....always have your ipod on while riding the subways or you'll come to work and go off blogging about listening to two sides of the story.

So is it true when they say, "there's always two sides of a story?" Yes.